You’ve probably heard (a thousand times over) about the recorded conversation of Donald Sterling’s conversation about his views race, society on black people coming to his Clippers games.
I can honestly say it has been a large part of my media consumption over the past couple days. Probably close to an unhealthy amount.
On my wedding day, I was given the advice, “be a man for your family.” To a 26-year-old man who was entering marriage already with a child, it sounded like profound advice. I thought, “this is what it takes, I have to be a man for my family.”
If I could just be that man for my family, then things would go well, and I’d be doing what I was supposed to be doing. But over time when life, marriage, parenting, and family become more real, I realized I had no clue.
When I was in real estate I remember some of the people we worked with saying “homes aren’t built like they used to.” At one point new homes and new neighborhoods seemed to pop up over night. The homes and subdivisions all looked great, but what many of our contractors discovered was they weren’t built as well as homes built years ago.
Have you been gearing up for the big day? Hopefully you didn’t forget what “big day” I’m talking about. If you forgot, let this be your reminder. Today is Valentine’s Day! It is the day you get the opportunity to do something special for your marriage, for your wife, for that one special person in your life.
Last week I was invited to chat with Hall of Fame NBA Player Bill Walton and is his son, NBA Champion Luke Walton. Bill and Luke are the only father and son combination in NBA history to both win multiple NBA Championships.
We talked about basketball, John Wooden, and their father-son relationship. But we also talked about love, relationships, and how to make your wife happy! Yes, Luke and Bill Walton are schooling us in the love department.
Go back with me for a moment and think about your wedding day. Can you picture it yet? Can you recall the feeling in the air and your nervous sense of excitement? Do you remember all of the family, friends and guests that were there to cheer on you and your spouse? Can you recall the amount of love and emotion for the person you were about to VOW the rest of your life to? Go to those places for a moment and then come back…
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You get married, go on your honeymoon, and your marriage is the most amazing thing you could ever dream of. It makes you think, “why did I not do this sooner??” We all know that is far from the truth. Some have reached this dream marriage state. For those of us who have not, what happens in-between?
Do you love your spouse? How does your spouse know you love them? Maybe you tell them every day. Maybe every time you go separate ways your last words are “I love you.” And you probably do love them and vice versa. What if the words you say, don’t necessarily spell love for your spouse?
Today my parents are celebrating 49 years of marriage! Happy Anniversary to them! That is amazing and almost hard to imagine being married that long. It makes me think. What will marriage be like when we celebrate our 49th anniversary?