Husbands: Do You Make Your Wife Feel Beautiful?

Does your wife think of herself lower than she really is?  Do you find yourself trying to convince her she is beautiful?  You may not be the only one, as this is more common than it seems.

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What do our wives see?

Dove has made a pretty big splash on YouTube with a series of viral videos, which confirm this.  Dove’s new ad campaign, “Dove Real Beauty Sketches” shows how women do not consider themselves beautiful.  A study revealed that only 4% of women worldwide consider themselves beautiful.  What about your wife? [Tweet this]

As a husband, that bothers me.  One of the reasons I married my wife, is because I think her to be very beautiful.  She is beautiful outside.  She is beautiful inside.  Her personality is beautiful.  But does she think the same?  I hope she does, but like the women in this video she may not.

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What do you want your wife to see?

When we (husbands) decided to “put a ring on it”, we were called to make our wives beautiful.  It is literally your job as a husband, to make your wife more beautiful.  Wow!  That sounds tough, but it is possible.  The bible confirms this in Ephesians 5.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

She is more beautiful with you, than without you

Not only does the Bible confirm this.  It provides the blueprint for doing so.  Ephesians 5:25-33 tells us exactly how to reveal our wive’s real beauty.

  1. Love your wife, as Christ loved the church, and give yourself up for her (verse 25).
  2. Lead your wife spiritually, by reading the Bible to her, and with her (verse 26).
  3. Love your wife, as your own body, by feeding and caring for her (verse 28-29).
  4. Leave anything that prevents you from becoming one with your wife (verse 31).

Doing these things will uncover the real beauty inside and outside the person you married.  You will be able to present her, to you (and everyone who notices), as a radiant woman.  A woman whose stains and wrinkles have been washed clean.

Are you the man?

I don’t know about you, but I love that job!

I want to be the one, the hero, the dude, who makes my wife feel beautiful and radiant. [Tweet this if you feel the same about your wife]

That job is more rewarding and more fulfilling than any job I will ever have.

Question: What other ideas do you have to make a woman realize their real beauty?  Please share in the comment section below.

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  • M. H. Young

    Such an introspective post; I love it. Over the past three years, my wife has battled with her hair, straighten or natural? All of the images and messages given to her by society were negative and damaging. She felt the need to chemically straighten her hair out of fear of rejection, and the fear of not looking professional. I constantly told her that being authenically herself was good enough, and that her colleagues respected her because of who she was, her talents and contributions to the team, and not because of her hair. It was important to me to constantly tell her that she was beautiful, hair straightened or natural. An associate of mine saw her and said,”your husband let you walk out of the house like that?” It devastated her; she was very upset as he did this in a public place. I found that brother quickly and told him that if he ever spoke to my wife again, his words better be uplifting or we were going to have a problem. I’m happy to say that she’s in full natural bloom, and looks better than ever. Her confidence is high; I’m just glad I could contribute to her journey of authenticity as a friend, and husband.

    • Thanks for sharing M.H. The straight vs. natural hair battle is a beast, that many women have faced. My understanding is that many of them still battle after they committed.

      I would guess the comments like the one from your associate contribute to that. I love the way you protected her in that situation, as well as how you have continued to affirm her beauty. You are setting an awesome example!

  • Krishann

    Such a wonderful post. I cried when I watched the video for the first time. I don’t see the same thing my husband sees when he looks at me but it is something that I am constantly working on for myself and also for my daughters.

    • Hey Krishann! I am sure you were not the only one, as those videos are pretty serious.

      It is awesome that your husband sees you that way and shares it with you…keep listening to him, and you’ll see you like he does more often! 🙂

  • I love the Dove sketches. Sometimes women don’t see their beauty the way strangers do. I’m not married, but think when a husband compliments his wife, he builds her self-confidence. She isn’t looking for another man to confirm that she is attractive/sexy.

    • Thx for stopping by Heather! I agree.

      This also applies to single men/women. If it isn’t done during dating, then more than likely it will not be done after marriage. Unfortunately, after marriage we sometimes stop doing some of the things that brought us together.

  • Ronnie_BMWK

    Great Post Jackie! This is something that I also struggle with. And appreciate how support my husband is and how he encourages me.

  • Great call to action for all of the husbands out there. Good job Jackie!

    • Thanks Lamar!! I’m hoping many husbands take that call.