For most couples, marriage is a heavy weight to manage. That’s a very bold statement, isn’t it? When you have over 50% of marriages ending in divorce, it’s safe to say that those marriages carried a weight that was difficult to manage—in most cases.
Somebody once said that if you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time. As a minister, life coach, blogger, business owner, husband and father, I’ve learned of the importance of providing vision for success.
My wife and I have been happily and successfully married for almost 27 years. We like to combine our yearly anniversary celebration with a time to develop a yearly vision for our family. Today, I want to give you exactly the steps we take to do this.
Last night we shared another great interview on The 7 Rings of Marriage Web Show. In this episode, our 10th episode, Stephana and I interviewed Lamar and Ronnie Tyler of Tyler New Media and the award winning site, BlackandMarriedWithKids.com.
Lamar and Ronnie shared their marriage story, and the thing they embraced that has helped them bridge the gap between the marriage they used to have to the marriage they now have. The same thing that worked for them can also be your bridge from the marriage you have to the marriage you want.
I heard a quote several years ago that has stuck with me ever since. The quote is the best – maybe the only – way to predict the future.
So far for me, it has been a great forecaster of my future. And that fact has me super excited about what lies ahead for me and my family in the coming years. There are many versions of the quote, so I’ll quote the one I’m most familiar with…
Money problems, adultery, porn addictions, blended family and in-law issues, unenjoyable sex, communication problems, health issues, a lack of leadership, and more.
You wouldn’t expect that list of problems to be the make up of lasting and fulfilling marriages. But it is. The things I listed above come directly from the marriage experiences of at least ten couples who have lasting and fulfilling marriages, including me and my wife, Stephana’s, marriage experiences.
The Amazing Spider Man 2 came out in theaters this past weekend. Spidey was probably my favorite super hero growing up as a kid. Shoot he’s probably still my favorite super hero today! (Dad’s still like that stuff).
Our honeymoon wasn’t the greatest. Shoot, I don’t think my wife even considers it a honeymoon. A honeymoon to her is somewhere warm, near water, or on a beach. I agree!
That wasn’t the description of our honeymoon. So, when my friends at BMWK announced the 2014 BMWK Marriage Cruise and Seminar at Sea I couldn’t wait to talk to her about it!
Less than six months into our marriage, I was almost certain we weren’t going to make it. As I reflect today, I am 100% sure we would not have made it! One event transformed the course of our marriage, and now, 12 years later I am 100% certain we will make it, ’til death do us part.
One of my favorite bible verses says “where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:18 KJV). What that verse says is without being able to see where you are going, you will have no life. Your life and family goals are the vision for your life and family. Families who set life goals will be full of life, those who don’t will not.