I’ve written about the important role youth coaches have in the lives of youth athletes. The influence goes well beyond the field, the court, or the arena. Anyone who has had the experience of playing for a great coach knows exactly what I’m talking about.
I was told by a YMCA director that years from now the kids I coach today will still call me coach, and I have the opportunity shape their lives. I’m been coaching kids for over nine years, and I’m not sure if our paths will cross when I’m older, but when they speak of me I hope they are able to speak well.
More than a coach
I attended an event last week in Indianapolis put together by the All Pro Dad organization to celebrate the 100th All Pro Dad’s Day breakfast at Cathedral High School in Indianapolis. The featured speaker of the event was Tony Dungy, and several former and current NFL players were in attendance.
Some of the players in attendance played for the Colts Super Bowl winning team a few years ago. These players were given the opportunity to share some of their thoughts and experiences playing for Coach Dungy. Very few of them talked only about their on-field player to coach relationship with him. Most of what they shared extended beyond that.
Click here to read the rest of the post, and to watch the video I recorded of Coach Dungy’s players sharing their experiences.
We often talk about the four stages of parenting, and sometime use a sport analogy…which is a stretch for me, I never played sports. But:
Ages birth to 5; Discipline. This stage is all is about laying down a foundation of cause and effect. I do this, this happens. I think the sports analogy here is the conditioning phase.
Ages 6 to 11; Equipping. This stage is about training our kids.. Parent should focus on correcting past decisions and allowing kids to practice making smaller decisions and living with the consequence. I think the sport analogy here is training.
Age 12 to 17; Coaching. This stage is about giving guidance from the sideline about decisions about to be made. This is game day.
Age 18 and Up; Friendship. This is when we become friends with our kids. This would be what you show in your video on the CoachUp blog post.
I’m working on a more complete article series on these stages….I’ll let you know when we get them done.
That is REALLY good stuff, Eric! I will be looking for that series.