My wife and I have had the opportunity to travel more in the past few years than we have over the previous twelve years of our marriage. Blogging, speaking, and writing my book, The 7 Rings of Marriage, has opened up some amazing doors and opportunities to do things we hadn’t done before.
I will be the first to say it hasn’t been without challenges, including the “fun” of traveling together. During one of our first trips, we were holding up the airport ticket line while trying to check our bags. Our suitcase was on the floor wide open, with all of our belongings out in the open for everyone to see— including our underwear!
Not the ideal way to start your trip
You can imagine things weren’t going well for us on that trip. We opened our suitcase and had the suitcase contents out because it was overweight. Like way overweight—25 pounds overweight! In order to get this big ole bag checked, we had to take stuff out and put some of it in our other bags (can you say “newbies”). It was just crazy.
We eventually got it all rearranged to meet the weight limit, but not before it was too late for our bags to be checked on that flight. So, we missed our flight! We were both frustrated, embarrassed, and mad at each other.
You live and you learn
Today we are able to laugh about it. We had only flown together twice before and that was years ago. The bag we packed that trip probably came close to the weight limit even when it was empty.
We’ve learned about choosing the right luggage and packing light since then. And we’ve learned a lot more to make our trips together enjoyable and something we want to do over and over again, instead of something we don’t enjoy and ending in fights and frustration.
Here are 7 things we’ve learned that’ll help you survive traveling with your spouse.
- Plan your wardrobe and be a minimalist. On that first trip we packed everything! Don’t do that. Plan a minimalist wardrobe, bring the basics, and stick to it. It will be enough.
- Choose appropriate and quality bags. As I said, the bag we used to have was huge. We’ve learned how to travel with just carry-on bags for most trips. And after some searching, we found luggage we love, made by TravelPro.
- Arrive at the airport way early. We’ve cut it close too many times. But now we arrive way early and we relax, get a bite to eat or drink, or sometimes take a nap before those early AM flights. The earlier we get to the airport the better.
- Sync up your travel itinerary using Evernote and/or Google Calendar. All of our travel info is loaded into Evernote, Google Calendar, or both. We both have access to it at all times.
- Don’t work while traveling—make it a date. I’ve been guilty of trying to use our flights, layovers, and even car rides as a time to work. That’s okay when traveling alone, but when traveling with your spouse, you are missing out on a great opportunity with your spouse. When we’ve made it a date, it’s been great!
- Go with the flow. Issues happen when you travel. Flights get delayed or canceled, hotel rooms aren’t clean, service isn’t always great. One string of flights, three or four in a row, we had one or both flights (coming and going) delayed or canceled. We began to know the process, became familiar with meal and hotel vouchers, and how to work the phones and the customer lines at the same time. At first, we griped, complained, angry-tweeted the airlines. and more. Then we learned to go with the flow and actually enjoyed it. That was much more fun.
- Schedule a rest day when you return. Whether it is a vacation or work-related, the day after a trip can be challenging. I used to try to jump right back into work-mode and make up for missed time. But I got wise, well actually my mentor suggested I schedule a rest day to regroup from our trips. Such wise words! What a difference that makes when coming back home.
We are still learning the best ways to make our travel together better, but the 7 tips above will help you whether you are seasoned or rookie travelers. My hope is you will practice them so you go from surviving traveling with your spouse to thriving when you travel with your spouse!
[reminder]What is your best tip for traveling with your spouse?[/reminder]
[callout]Disclaimer: I partnered with TravelPro, and was given a piece of luggage to use and review. The content and opinions in this post are all my own. After months of searching for the ideal luggage, and several trips together, my wife and I tried a bag from TravelPro and absolutely loved it! We now plan to replace all of our luggage with luggage from TravelPro. If you are looking for really good luggage, I suggest you try TravelPro luggage.[/callout]
We are a travel pro family and travel very light.
I’ll have to remember tip #5 when we travel to Greece this October.
Thanks for the tips!
Also, thanks for the free chapter 2 of your book. I love the part about saying “no,” and taking divorce off of the menu.
That’s awesome,JT! TravelPro bags are great.
Glad you like the free chapter. You may have already discovered through my blog, but my wife and I are doing a free 7 Rings book study live every Tuesday, we have 6 weeks left of the study. More info here: jackiebledsoe.com/free-book-study/
Cant agree more, Jackie. #7 is of utmost importance. We’ve learned the hard way as well. Both of us are goal oriented people, so upon return from a trip we jump right into all the lose ends and go to work. But now, we’ve learned to take one more day to relax. In addition to that, I try to still go out the day after we’re home so my wife doesn’t feel the burden to cook, do laundry, or do any cleaning. We make it a point to be somewhat of a lazy day. Morning coffee is about the only cooking we do :-).
Everything else can wait one more day.
My mother used to tell me: “son, one of the best things God every created was one day after another. Whatever doesn’t get done today can get done tomorrow.” Well, so I take that to heart when I travel. 🙂
I love the idea of going out to eat and not cooking dinner at home the day after, Alex! Great idea. Thanks for sharing!