I Love My Kids, But My Wife Comes First


My kids hold a very special place in my heart.  Very special.  But no matter how cute, how much they look like me, or how awesome they are, my wife comes first.  Until recently, I thought this was a common mindset.  I have learned some parents put their kids first.

When your spouse is a priority it will show

Although I have always believed my wife should come first, my actions didn’t always show it.  Truth be told, I sometimes struggle.  However, I have recognized it and began to make changes.  One example is in the weekly date night with my wife.

We’ve been married 11 years, but have never consistently had a date night.  That is until recently, when I recognized the need and we both made it a priority.  Up to that point I allowed many things to get it the way.  The reasons excuses sounded good.  But what I was really doing was not making time with my wife a priority.

It was the equivalent of putting my kids first.  I always found a way to make their events.  Sometimes going to extreme measures to do so.

How is this viewed in other marriages?

Giuliana Rancic shared her thoughts and received some harsh feedback.  Recently, on HLN’s Raising America, my friends Lamar and Ronnie Tyler addressed this topic.  In addition   Check out the HLN video below.

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Question:  Where do you stand?  Does your spouse come before your kids?  Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

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Mar 8, 2013