The other night I was watching one of the ESPN 30 for 30 episodes with my kids. It was the newest release about the story of heavyweight boxers Evander Holyfield and Mike Tyson, called Chasing Tyson.
Our youngest son Joshua turns 6 years old tomorrow, and he’s always had a unique perspective on things. But what I learned from his reaction while watching the show taught me a thing or two about how our perspective impacts our view of life.
This 30 for 30 episode followed the story of Holyfield’s career, and how he always played second fiddle to Tyson. It didn’t matter that he was a decorated boxer in the amateur and professional ranks. He’d won an Olympic bronze medal, was the world cruiserweight champion, and later the undefeated, undisputed heavyweight champion of the world. Tyson still got the headlines, and Tyson was still the standard in boxing at the time.
For me, like most of us, “Iron” Mike Tyson was pretty much unbeatable through those years. Even after he lost by knockout to someone very few people had heard of—Buster Douglas. We viewed Tyson as the “baddest man on the planet,” the bully of boxing, a knockout artist, and somebody nobody in their right mind would face.
So, as we watched Chasing Tyson I remember how I felt watching Tyson vs. Holyfield and expecting Tyson to pummel him. Although I knew the outcome of their fight, watching it still had me feeling like, “Wow. That was unexpected.”
But, our son Joshua. He knew nothing of their story. So, he watched with no preconceived thoughts. As they replayed the fight, Holyfield easily began to get the best of Tyson. Actually, he began to pummel Tyson. And then Joshua began pleading to the ref on TV (yes, he talks to the TV during sporting events . . . just like his dad!). He was saying, “Stop it, why won’t he stop it.” To him, Mike Tyson wasn’t a bully or the “baddest man,” but somebody smaller who needed somebody to get that man off him.
Seeing What Was Obvious
Looking at it through the view of a 6-year-old boy made sense. Holyfield was bigger—actually a lot bigger. He continued to push Tyson back against the ropes without Tyson giving much resistance or having the ability to stop him. Holyfield was apparently a better boxer as he landed more punches and hit him harder. My initial view wasn’t clear, and even 20 years later it was still hard for me to see what was obvious: Holyfield was better than Tyson.
This entire scenario showed me the importance of our perspective, and I want to share a few insights that I believe will be beneficial to you.
- Keep an open mind. Of the two boxers, one was smaller and had a funny sounding voice. My preconceived ideas and knowledge of Tyson’s history kept me believing he might still pull out a win. It was obvious who was the tougher guy to Joshua. Sometimes it’s best to just have an open mind and see the person or situation for what it is.
- If it walks and talks like a duck . . . it’s probably a duck. One big guy with a head that looks like nothing could hurt it versus one smaller guy with a funny voice. The big guy continued to hit and push the little guy when he wanted. Joshua quickly understood one of them needed help. We have to be careful not to be so set on something that we can’t let go of what we think we know and gain some new perspective.
- Other people’s perspectives can skew ours. Joshua didn’t know all the media hype that had surrounded Mike Tyson and made him seem invincible at that time. We have to be careful of making other people’s perspectives our own. As dads, we sometimes do this when we correct our kids differently in public than in private because of what we think it looks like to others.
In the end, the outcome of that 20-year-old fight was still the same. My son wasn’t surprised at all, and I walked away with some new understanding about how he sees people and events. We should consider our kid’s perspective and try to view life the way they do more often.
Kids have the ability to see people and situations for how they really are—without all the hype. Seeing life from their perspective will not only impact how you relate to them, but it can change how you relate to other people and situations as well.
[reminder]Has your kid’s perspective ever changed how you see people or situations?[/reminder]
I think kids do change our perspective in many ways as we move forward. They actually change us. They teach us how skewed our vision is sometimes. Through their eyes they haven’t seen what we have seen what we see and can look at things more clearly. We have our favorites but they are looking at things in a raw and untainted perspective.
Good stuff Jackie!
I really like this article. I can relate to this is so many ways. Thanks for sharing
My pleasure, Mike!
Funny thing, I was sitting next to Mike Tyson at a stop light last week. He was in a convertible and has a very distinct tattoo on his face, so it was easy to know it was him.
He looked over and I felt intimidated LOL.
My kids knew nothing about the hype and to them he was just some guy with a tattoo on his face.
There are a few ways we can approach life like kids do that would be beneficial for us as adults. Thanks for sharing Jackie!
Ha! That probably happens to Mike all the time…those who remember “Iron Mike” are a little intimidated!