How to Get on the Same Page with Your Spouse

One of the biggest challenges in marriage is being on the same page with your spouse. Many couples have asked how to get on the same page with your spouse.

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When two different people, from two different backgrounds, usually with two different ways of doing things come together, be on the same page is no easy task. After 12 years of marriage, my wife and I have had some success and big failures in this area, but we’ve finally found a way to consistently do it.

To say that we’ve found a way to consistently get on the same page is a BIG thing. We are total opposites in many areas. I am a planner, and she is far from it. She loves surprises, and not knowing something frustrates me. She loves activities that involve physical risk, and I don’t even ride roller coasters. At the core of the way we function we have some night and day differences.

Why you must be on the same page with your spouse

We all know how difficult marriage and parenting can be. When you aren’t on the same page the difficulties increase drastically, almost to the point where it overwhelms you.

Challenges, both internal and external, seem to attack your marriage from all angles. I believe you can’t overcome those marital challenges alone, and once you get married you are supposed to.

But when you come together and get on the same page, you can accomplish more things than you ever imagined! You are able to defend yourselves against these attacks. You are able to better raise your kids. And you are able to accomplish your biggest dreams.

The best way to get on the same page with your spouse

I’ll be honest, we aren’t always on the same page. But the times we are, one thing has been present. That one thing is praying together. Praying together tears down all barriers, bonds us like nothing else, and encourages us in ways nothing else does.

Praying together will do the same for you. You might be a praying person, as both my wife and I are. But we don’t always pray together, which I don’t understand because we see the benefits.

I encourage you and your wife to commit to praying together daily, even if just for five minutes. Commit to it for seven days, and watch what happens.

What has worked in getting you and your spouse on the same page? Please share in the comment section below.

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  • Great reminder as I look forward to celebrating 9 years of marriage in 3 days. Best part of this post is “But we don’t always pray together, which I don’t understand because we see the benefits”. Same situation here, and it’s time to fix that problem.

    I believe what keeps my wife and I on the same page is discussing how we feel about situations and establishing a vision for our home. We’ve always worked together to present a unified team and to avoid division.

    • I like that, “establishing a vision for our home.” I think that is really important. Thanks for stopping by and sharing, Devin!