Life is full of pressures and commitments that distract us from investing in the core elements of a life well-lived. The problem this presents us with is that we then miss out on a life of wholeness that is available to us. If only we had a bit of discipline and advance planning, we could live life more fully.
At the beginning of this month we took our first family road trip vacation in years. My wife and kids and my parents packed up two cars full of stuff and headed west. We were headed to spend time with my brother and his family in Missouri. But this was a trip that almost didn’t happen.
We had an amazing time. The words I kept hearing from our kids were “epic family vacation!” I have to agree, although I didn’t think it would happen. Shortly after the trip was initially planned we found out that our daughter had a national track meet the same week.
I slumped helpless, hopeless into my seat. “Oh God…” I whispered; it was as much as I could say. My head buried in my hands hid the tears that forced themselves through clenched eyelids. What had I done? They didn’t deserve to be treated like that – no one does.
Work had been getting on top of me for months. The pressure was building. Once I had enjoyed it. The variety, the challenge, and the people. But now… it was different. Every day I woke with that nauseous feeling in the pit of my stomach. The tension in my chest – at times I felt like it would crush me.
So, this past Sunday, I hit the big 4-0. I’m gonna let that sink in for a minute (let it sink in for me, not you). I am now 40-years-old. I’m not sure what to say about it.
I honestly didn’t think it was going to be that big of a deal. I’ve never been big on milestone dates, years, or whatever. I’ve just always had this “it is what it is” type of approach to it.
My blogging journey started over 2.5 years ago. I had no idea what would really come from it. I had high hopes, but there is no way I could be certain what the real results would be. All I know is I was frustrated with where I was, and some of the struggles I was having as a husband and a father.
Last night my wife and I went to see Irreplaceable the Movie. Irreplaceable is a Focus on the Family documentary directed by Tim Sisarich about family, and how it has seemingly lost its meaning in our modern culture. After watching a few YouTube trailers about it, I thought I had a pretty good idea of what it was going to be about.
My assumption was it was going to document the important, almost irreplaceable role that father’s play in family. It was about that, but it was so much more! There were so many things that jumped out at me that I can’t even begin to mention them all in one blog post.
Every marriage faces some type of challenges. Sometimes the challenges are big, sometimes small. The same with parenting. When faced with them they can sometimes seem overwhelming. Leaving you with a feeling that you just can’t continue in marriage and parenting.
You get married, go on your honeymoon, and your marriage is the most amazing thing you could ever dream of. It makes you think, “why did I not do this sooner??” We all know that is far from the truth. Some have reached this dream marriage state. For those of us who have not, what happens in-between?