My wife and I were talking the other day about how loving our kids were to one another when we brought each new baby home from the hospital. Our daughter, now 14, just about loved her two little brothers to death.
Our oldest son, couldn’t keep the smile off his face and just couldn’t get enough of his little bro. But sometimes today we can barely get them to stand next to each other for a photo, hug one another, or even be in the same room with one another without some type of disagreement or fight.
I have been reading some of the books from the Dave Ramsey team lately. In Dave Ramsey’s book, “EntreLeadership,” and Jon Acuff’s book, “Quitter,” the topic of employee stealing is discussed. As I read it and realized I have been one of those thieving employees, it was a nice gut punch. But even worse, an effective gut punch combo, was the realization I’ve been stealing from my wife and kids just as much, if not more.
My marriage wouldn’t be where it is today, without counsel and support of other married couples. We’ve been through counseling. We’ve had friends “camp out” at our house in the midst of a trial until we worked it out. Too many couples to name have covered us in prayer and helped us in many other areas. Each has been very valuable.
One of the biggest challenges in marriage is being on the same page with your spouse. Many couples have asked how to get on the same page with your spouse.
When two different people, from two different backgrounds, usually with two different ways of doing things come together, be on the same page is no easy task. After 12 years of marriage, my wife and I have had some success and big failures in this area, but we’ve finally found a way to consistently do it.
Have you ever had access to something that would help you, but you didn’t use it? Or had the knowledge to do something, but didn’t put that knowledge to use?
Let me be the first to raise my hand!
This is a guest post from Jed Jurchenko. Jed is a husband, daddy to four girls, author, therapist, and psychology professor. He and his wife Jenny blog weekly at CoffeeShopConversations.com
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Small actions can make or break your marriage. Tiny acts of kindness are sometimes the ones that are remembered and impact your marriage most. Unfortunately, tiny acts of contempt are also long remembered, and can be powerful enough to turn a good relationship sour.
The bottom line is that when it comes to your marriage, little actions make a big difference. In fact, my marriage to Jenny started with a simple, but powerful, act of kindness.
You hear husbands talk about how lucky, or how blessed, or how thankful they are for their wives. You may also hear people say, “He married up.” What those statements boil down to is admitting that they don’t deserve the woman they get to call “my wife.”
If you’ve read even a limited amount of my blog posts, you can see how I fit in that category as well. I make mistakes, plenty of them, but one of my biggest mistakes started before we were married. That mistake was breaking the trust in our relationship.
his is a guest post from Alex Craig. Alex is a blogger and founder of Have a Rich Marriage
where he helps couples create marriages full of unconditional acceptance and emotional safety. You can find out more about Alex, as well as how you can have a rich marriage
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I was browsing Facebook while I should have been working last week, and I came across a post from one of my friends. The post was a meme and the saying said, “Marriage allows you to annoy that one special person for the rest of your life.”
This is a guest post from Bryan Stoudt, a pastor and blogger who helps people learn to follow Jesus even when life is busy, broken and full of distractions. (And isn’t it always?) You can read more from Bryan on his blog, bryanstoudt.com
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‘Good night,’ I said, trying to smile and drum up some enthusiasm. I’m not really sure what my wife said in return, but it was probably something similar. In reality, I had already moved on.
On the inside, I was hurting. Frustrated that my wife seemed disengaged. But I didn’t want to admit it. And neither one of us was brave enough to move beyond the status quo.
his is a guest post from Jonathan Hoover. Jonathan is the author of The Blindfolded Marriage and the associate pastor at NewSpring Church, in Wichita, KS. Jonathan is a sought after marriage coach and speaker and blogs at www.lifeinacrazyworld.com
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Marital conflict happens. Hopefully, we’re able to keep it to a minimum, but disagreements—sometimes heated ones—are bound to happen. Should we be careful about how much our kids see? For years, the cultural answer seemed to be “Yes; keep the kids out of it.”