My wife and I have had the opportunity to travel more in the past few years than we have over the previous twelve years of our marriage. Blogging, speaking, and writing my book, The 7 Rings of Marriage, has opened up some amazing doors and opportunities to do things we hadn’t done before.
I will be the first to say it hasn’t been without challenges, including the “fun” of traveling together. During one of our first trips, we were holding up the airport ticket line while trying to check our bags. Our suitcase was on the floor wide open, with all of our belongings out in the open for everyone to see— including our underwear!
The other night I was watching one of the ESPN 30 for 30 episodes with my kids. It was the newest release about the story of heavyweight boxers Evander Holyfield and Mike Tyson, called Chasing Tyson.
Our youngest son Joshua turns 6 years old tomorrow, and he’s always had a unique perspective on things. But what I learned from his reaction while watching the show taught me a thing or two about how our perspective impacts our view of life.
My little girl fell face first into the dirt and began to cry. We quickly moved to pick her up, but she would have none of it. In her two-year-old words, our determined little girl said, “I do it self!” She picked herself up from the trail.
A couple years ago my wife, Stephana, and I were at a marriage retreat. We were asked to participate in an exercise where we rated the state of our marriage. If memory serves me correctly it was based on a scale of one to ten.
A ranking of one meant our marriage was absolutely terrible, and ten meaning our marriage was the best it could be. After revealing our answers to one another the difference was shocking. One of us ranked our marriage north of five, while the other — uhh, not the same, not even close.
Not too long ago my wife took our recurring date night out of our calendar. Without saying it to my face, she basically told me “date nights are off!”
I was hurt. First, I enjoy dating my wife, which is why we made it important enough to put in our calendars. Second, I offer a Date Night in a Box to help other couples have consistent date nights! How am I not going to be dating my wife??
My wife and I were just talking the other day after a few days of hard rain how our grass had just shot up. It seemed like I just mowed it, but a few days later it looked longer than before I cut it. Our grass has been thriving this summer.
We were thinking back to the past couple summers how our grass was brown, dry, and withered by the time August came. But this season is not the case. I’m mowing the lawn like crazy as it’s green and growing. It brings to mind a quote I read from Gary Chapman…
When kids come into your life, your marriage changes. We have three kids and a child changed the dynamics of our marriage and family. What if this happened eight times? It did to the couple we interviewed for the episode of the 7 Rings of Marriage Web Show.
Mike and Kristin Berry from the Confessions of a Parent blog not only have eight children, but each one joined their family through adoption! We have several close friends who’ve adopted children. One consistent thing I’ve learned is the adoption process is no walk in the park.
I made a public confession last January that I would no longer be “notoriously bad” when it comes to birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries, and holidays. Especially when it comes to my wife’s birthday.
I said, “From this point forward I’m going to be notoriously great,” in this area. Well, my wife’s birthday was last Sunday, and before the day barely got started I walked in the room to see her with tears steaming down her face!
I did something I never thought I’d do. My wife has long wanted to do this, but I said no. She wanted to bring this into our bedroom, and I’ve always felt the bedroom really isn’t the place for it.
However, last month I finally gave in, thanks to my mother-in-law. While we haven’t used it much, I’ve really enjoyed it, and I’m excited about getting more use of it.