Today is the official release date of my new book, The 7 Rings of Marriage: Your Model for a Lasting and Fulfilling Marriage. In addition to the book, I’m also releasing a new 8-session DVD-based Bible study in partnership with LifeWay Christian Resources called The 7 Rings of Marriage: Practical Biblical Wisdom For Every Season of Your Marriage.
Both are my first published resources, so today is an exceptionally special day for me. We created a complete page with information about the book, so I won’t spend time in this post telling you a whole lot about the book. You can just visit the web page we created.
I’d say we are a family of introverts, but all things point to just the opposite of that. We share a lot of our family “business” online and other places, or maybe I should say I share a lot of our family business online and other places. Let’s just say we’re involved in a lot of things that don’t scream “introvert!”
Well, yesterday we entered a new arena, and it’s one I’ve never desired nor thought I’d ever be involved in. Our family had our very first acting gig—yep, all five of us. While our daughter dreams of acting and has done this many times before, the rest of us hadn’t. Surprisingly, we were naturals.
Come and meet me at the Indianapolis LifeWay Bookstore and I’ll sign your copy of my new book.
||February 2, 2016
||7 Rings of Marriage Meet-up & Book Signing
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||5458 E. 82nd Street
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Typically when we are in public or are around other people I don’t refer to my wife as Stephana, which is of course her name. She has a very unique name and people mispronounce it all the time.
She rarely corrects them, so I do. You might think it helps the awkwardness of the mispronouncing her name. But nope, I’d rather not call her by her name.
All of us who are married hope to have a marriage that lasts. Not only do we want it to last, but we want it to be fulfilling, and successful in every way. But after we say “I do,” we begin to wonder how we can actually accomplish this. It’s no secret that a successful marriage takes work, just like success at anything in life.
We come into marriage with high hopes and Hollywood-inspired visions of what marriage is going to be like. Then we hit hard patches and we discover things about our spouses (and ourselves) that aren’t as appealing. This leads to a first-hand understanding of why people say “marriage is hard work,” and why the divorce rate is so high.
One year ago I was hard at work writing the manuscript for my book, The 7 Rings of Marriage. The manuscript was completed and sent to my publisher around Valentine’s Day. Then for the better part of 2015, I continued to work on this book — editing, reviewing, discussing, recording videos, speaking about it, and more.
Well, I am super excited to say the fruit of that labor is coming very soon. On February 1st (in 26 days!) my book will be released for everyone to see. And for a select few, those who join my launch team, they’ll have a chance to read it before then!
I’ve learned that when we come into marriage we all have our own expectations and ideas about how the ideal marriage should work. We all want the same thing—a good marriage, a happy marriage, a lasting and fulfilling marriage—but we have different ideas on what gets us there.
My wife Stephana and I didn’t really talk about this before we got married, and it was years into our marriage before we began to do so. We got married and just went on expecting things to end up “happily ever after” because that’s what we both wanted, even though we didn’t discuss it. Nope, didn’t happen.
You hear husbands talk about how lucky, or how blessed, or how thankful they are for their wives. You may also hear people say, “He married up.” What those statements boil down to is admitting that they don’t deserve the woman they get to call “my wife.”
If you’ve read even a limited amount of my blog posts, you can see how I fit in that category as well. I make mistakes, plenty of them, but one of my biggest mistakes started before we were married. That mistake was breaking the trust in our relationship.
This is a guest post from Brian J. Lindner
. Brian is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor specializing in couples counseling at his private practice. His blog, “Make Some Wonderful,”
provides solid guidance for a wonderful marriage. His e-book, “The Best Holidays Ever,” moves couples from conflict to connection through the stressful holiday season. Follow him on Twitter
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The cardboard box is waiting for me in the shadows of my garage right where I left it this February. It holds a few dozen strands of Christmas lights magically intertwined into one impossible jumble. Every year I tackle the jumbled mess with a combination of “Eye of the Tiger” enthusiasm and “Jingle Bell Rock” cheerfulness.
By the time I actually get them sorted out hours later, my fingers are frozen and my cheerful enthusiasm is decaffeinated. I tend to keep the project simple after the detangling. I put a few lights along the rain gutters in the front of the house and call it good. Last year I even put some lights in the tree in our front yard.
For a while, I’ve held onto some things which I knew at some point I’d have to open up and share. These things are from my past, but my not too distant past and it still hurts me to this day. I’ve opened up a lot lately and began to write about them.
They are some of my biggest failures and setbacks in marriage. I knew I couldn’t keep these experiences to myself forever, but sharing your failures isn’t something you rush to do. But I finally shared. I shared because I believed it would help you and others in some crucial areas you must master in marriage.