A few weeks ago, my wife and I were in our bedroom talking and our kids were in the room doing their own thing. The next thing we heard was, “Dad, can you come here!” from one of our sons. It didn’t sound like a panic, but there was a seriousness to the tone of his voice.
I could tell he was very concerned about something. I’ve heard that tone before, and typically he doesn’t say what it is he needs, but I know to come and see what’s going on. When I got to the room, it wasn’t an emergency, and most of those instances it’s not. It wasn’t even really a big deal…to us. But to him it was pretty serious, and he needed help.
About a month or so ago just as the season for grass cutting hit full swing here in Indiana, we tried to start up our lawn mower and it wouldn’t cooperate. Nothing we did seemed to work. And this was our “new” lawnmower, which is a gently used mower given to us by a family member because our other mower kept breaking down.
So, our grass began to rise (as I’m sure our neighbor’s frustration did along with it). Then one day it happened. Two dads, our dads, converged on our house with lawn equipment and tools. My dad and my dad-in-law drove over an hour to our house with the intent of not only taking care of our grass, but getting our lawn equipment up and running.
I am a very competitive person. It’s natural for me to compete and desire to win. It doesn’t matter what it is –basketball, checkers, work, or in marriage.
As men we are wired that way. We are competitive by nature, we want to accomplish great things. But winning in marriage seems to be an arena where we don’t have as much control over the game as in other areas.
The day we get married we make some promises to our spouses, in the form of our wedding vows. We promise that through a myriad of circumstances we will love them through it all and ultimately never leave them. If the studies are true, only about 50% of us keep those promises.
I’m certain we all have good intentions. We want to honor those promises. We want to love our spouses like the days we were dating and courting. But somewhere along the lines those promises are forgotten, or at least aren’t at the top of our minds.
Last Sunday on our web show we had a snafu that left us unable to share the amazing interview we had with our guest couple.
So, to keep our promise of sharing an interview with a couple who has or is working toward a lasting and fulfilling marriage, we turned the tables. We decided to sit in the interviewee seat.
We are excited to share part two our interview with Mike & Kristin Berry, where they share some challenges they’ve experienced as the parents of eight kids, this Sunday, on the 7 Rings of Marriage Web Show!
I am really looking forward to speaking at the Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference!
My wife, Stephana, and I are super excited to be Hot Topics breakout session speakers at the Committed for Life Marriage Retreat at Pokagan State Park, in Angola, IN.
This is a guest post from Christy Fitzwater. Chrysty is a writer and pastor’s wife in Kalispell, Montana. She has enjoyed 24 years of marriage and is soon to enter the empty nest years, with a daughter who is married and a son about to graduate. Read Christy’s devotional writing at www.christyfitzwater.com
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His birthday falls on election day, and the year before had been the election of the “hanging chads.” Do you remember watching the news and waiting for hours to see who would be the president that year?
Of course, I made the mistake of hosting my husband’s birthday dinner at a restaurant with TVs. He was consumed with the news, and that birthday was a wash.
I am really looking forward to doing this FREE webinar training with my friend Jeff Goins. It is open to the public.
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